Tuesday, July 15, 2014

The joy of teens

The teen years . . . do you dread them or did you dread them? When my kids were little I had friends often say "Just wait until they are teenagers" & would tell me it was worse than the "terrible twos". I admit I dreaded it.

I was talking with a friend today while we were at the pool & we came to the subject of teenagers. We both have kids around the same age & our oldest kids are 18 have been best friends for many years. While watching our kids splash & play around the pool she said to me "Don't you just enjoy these years? It is much easier now than when they were little." I had to agree with her.

I started thinking about when my kids were little. I have always homeschooled my kids. Our first year of homeschooling was tough. My oldest was 6, my middle daughter was about 22mts & I had a newborn. Life was very busy. I'll admit I often did as the mom in "Moms Night Out" I hid from my kids in the closet & cried. Of course the kids were safe in bed at the time.

I remembered one busy morning I was already worn out & I had not even eaten breakfast. I wondered how long was I in the kitchen trying to prepare breakfast for my children so I could at least sit for a moment & eat myself. Before I could eat I had to tend to the kids. That meant filling up sippy cups, figuring out what they wanted to eat that morning, change dirty diapers, put a child on the potty for potty training, clean up messes, vacuum up crumbs of Gold Fish & Cheese Its which my son lived on, stop fights, clean up more messes, refill sippy cups, change another diaper & let's just say I could list many more things that had to be done. But where was I . . . oh one busy morning I actually set a timer to see how long I was in that kitchen every morning. It showed I was in there for about 2hrs. Of course during those 2hrs I was rushing in & out of the kitchen doing everything else that had to be done. So after about 2hrs I'd get to sit for a moment to eat breakfast. By then I was ready for them to take a nap & guess what? It was almost time for lunch! Back to the kitchen . . . or at least try to get back to the kitchen.

I then thought about this morning. I slept in a little bit, my oldest had taken out the dog & already eaten. My middle daughter & son fixed their own breakfast & cups. I then fixed mine & headed back to my room for quite time with God. Yes, I'm a bad momma who eats in bed while I pray. lol

So honestly things are a lot easier that my kids are older. They can do more themselves & one of them is even driving which is wonderful. I had to stop driving awhile back due to medication I take & migraines that can cause vision problems. My kids now understand that I need quiet time with God so they are quiet most mornings while I pray.

Don't get me wrong my kids are far from perfect. I still clean up messes a number of times a day, I have to remind them to pick up after themselves, their rooms sometimes follow them down the stairs into the livingroom, I have to correct back talk & often have to remind them that even though they are taller than my short 5' I'm still their mommy & they need to respect that.

My oldest is now 18 as I said. It's been a joy to see her growing in a woman of God. She is thinking of going into the ministry & wanting to maybe go to a Christian college. She has led devotionals at Christian camps & gone on mission trips too. I'll admit she is a far better teenager than I was. lol

All in all I feel very blessed to be able to enjoy my children as teenagers. Well, my son won't be a teenager until September. It's hard to believe my baby will be 13yrs old. My middle daughter will turn 15 this year & start driving. That is the scary part of raising teenagers. Your child behind the wheel of a car!!!!

My point is I love my kids, I love spending time with them & I feel blessed to be their mother. I'm thankful they are growing up & able to do things themselves. But, I'm not done just yet. We still have a lot of work to do before releasing them into the world. I'm thankful for that time & pray all 3 of my kids will continue to walk in the Lord once they leave our home. That is my goal our goal as parents. I want my kids eyes to be on the Lord.

Monday, July 7, 2014

Look to the birds

I'm sitting here listening to baby birds tweeting outside my window. Their mom has arrived with food & they are hungry.

Could you imagine leaving your little ones up high in a nest & go look for food? You have no idea how long it takes but you have the faith you will find it. It doesn't matter how long either, you are on the hunt for food to feed your babies.

This reminds me of one of the first Bible Verses I learned as a new Christian. "Look at the birds. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren't you far more valuable to him than they are?" - Matthew 6:26.

So why should we worry? I know I could take the gold metal on worrying. My mind can take something small, roll it in ball until it becomes so big I have no more control over it. Then it tumbles & turns in my mind coming up with more worries & more worries. It is so easy to say we should just put it in Gods hands which are way bigger than ours but often we cling to that worry & it does us no good at all.

I remember Joyce Meyer speaking about Matthew 6:26. She said something like "You never see a bird having a nervous breaking screaming what ifs. The bird sits in faith that food & shelter will be available. I'm not sure what a bird having a nervous break down looks but I'm sure it looks pretty silly which makes me think I must look pretty silly when I worry nonstop.

As corney as Pollyanna's "Glad Game" sounds I often play it. Pollyanna said "Oh, yes; the game was to just find something about everything to be glad about—no matter what 'twas." So no matter how bad or impossible things seem there is always something to be glad about. Even if it is just being glad you woke up that morning.

So remember to "Choose Joy" each day. Like that mama bird outside my window I'm sure she is joyful to be resting her wings even if it is just to feed her babies because she has to go right back out looking for more food once they are all fed. She has been doing this for at least an hour. I get tired just thinking about all the work she has to do.

Monday, September 27, 2010

"The Man in the mirror" what it means to me

 Someone asked me what the following line from "Man in the Mirror" by Michael Jackson means. 

Their question was "I was listening to Man in the Mirror today, and I have no idea what this means: "A summer disregard, a broken bottle top, and one man's soul". Does anyone know what this phrase means? Thanks."

 This was my reply -

I think a songs lyrics can mean many different things to different people.

I'm a huge MJ fan & I have been since 1982. "Man in the Mirror" is my all time favorite because it was that song that helped me over come my past and make a change in me instead of trying to change others.

For me -

It is pointing to lonely times.

Disregard means - To pay no attention or heed to; ignore
Summer is a fun time for kids who are out of school & living carefree. So disregarding summer would mean no rest or fun. Missing out

A broken bottle top -
It looks sad and lonely. Broken and destroyed.

One man's soul - the above "A summer disregard, a broken bottle top" speaks of how one man's soul is feeling.

I've heard people say this song was using in their therapy for over coming drugs or alcohol.

This song changed my life. I was sexually abused from ages 9-12 , mentally abused, raped at 17 for months, a cutter, put in mental hospitals & so on. I couldn't change my past. But I could look at myself. I could take a good long look at my sadness and feeling lonely & change that. I had the power to change.

I wish I could tell Michael Jackson how this song encouraged me so many times when I felt alone.

he's an amazing man & soul.

It is still hard for me to watch his videos without wanting to cry.

I have no shame in my past. God has helped me over come many things & I wanted to share with others so they will know they too can "make that change."

Watch "Michael Jackson's Man in the Mirror"

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Homeschooling & social life

Someone on Yahoo Answeres asked about homeschooling and asked about the social life of homeschooling.

This was my answer -

I do not understand why people think that homeschooled kids will not have a social life.

1. Look at public school & private school - the kids are separated into grades so they are social mainly with kids their own age. Yes, they interact with other kids of diff. ages but mostly they are gathered with kids their own age.

2. Homeschooled kids - yes they are home with their parents most of the day for lessons, but people seem to forget the kids do go outside. They run errands with their parents, they go to church activities, they volunteer, they help care for younger siblings, they meet other homeschooled kids at co - ops or field trips. But best of all they interact with people of all ages!

I'd say homeschool kids have a better understanding of being social because they learn to interact with people of many diff. ages.

I remember well when I was a teen and dragged somewhere boring with my parents. First thing I'd ask was "Will there be any kids there my age." If not I'd groan and moan.

My kids could careless if they had to play with a toddler or talk to an elder.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

The future of invites?

 A friend online was complaining about an invite she got to a cookout. She said it had a lot of rules that must be followed if she decided to go. Other friends replied that they too had received something similar to a child's birthday party & an engagement party.

I got to thinking about different rules I've heard for parties, cook outs and get togethers.  I can see the future of invites to parties getting as long as those forms you fill out at the doctors office. Or worse maybe rules like this. I made it up off top of my head. I've heard some parents & other people set crazy rules like this before a party -

Please come to our party on (time & date) RSVP by (date) or you will have to pay a fee to cover the party.

BYO food but please do not bring anything with wheat, peanuts & red dye #2 due to allergies  keep your beef separate from our veggie meat. (NOTE - I wrote this 4yrs ago. I can now understand why allergy problems need to be taken seriously. Sadly though some people ignore suggestions like this & it could cause someone to get sick).

No alcohol allowed because it will insult Uncle Joe who is recovering. 

If you are coughing or sneezing please pick up a face mask on your arrival. 

Submit your music of choice but  no rap, no christian & no rock; no Lady GAGA as grandma & others find them insulting. John will approve all the music before it is played.

Last but not least no perfumes, no hair spray and most of all do not spray any bug spray this can set off migraines & allergy attacks.

Hope to see you soon. Please sign, initial and return by (date) Expect to be inspected at the door Look forward to seeing you!